Love, Etc.
Love knows no boundaries, no time-lines. I know it sounds so cliché, but it is real. Just look around you, and you will know. We love. Everywhere, everytime. We love without hesitation, without any anticipation of reciprocation but then: when the relationship goes to the dumps, we switch off our emotions and feelings and simply fail to show even the slightest amount of concern and liking. Do we honestly lose the sanctity; the integrity of our hearts?
I don’t quite seem to grasp it when there is a situation like this. And the weird part is that it happens to all of us. A person who at this minute is pouring his/her heart out and is completely in love, and then the next time you look around, he/she has called the relationship off and is calling their “most-cherished-one” names and evidently: has fallen “out of love” with him/her. So where do all those sweet nothings, dinner beneath the stars, walk in the snow, flowers, mushy-mushy sweetheart/honey endearings go? Down the drain?
I believe you can’t fall in and out of love. If you really do, then you didn’t love at all. But you simply cannot break the cycle. How is it that you can just completely close those doors and claim that you do not care? You snap your fingers and voila! Love’s here! And snap again: love’s gone!
--I do nonetheless believe that love evolves over a period of time. I don’t believe in the concept of love at first sight. You love a person not because they look like the Greek god Adonis and are the embodiment of beauty. You love them because of who they are and what they mean to you. You know the person, respect what he/she is, and you admire them. You appreciate and value them. So, therefore I cannot reason on the of "love-at-first-sight" idea: how can you love someone when you don’t know him/her at all? You simply look and then and decide, “He/she’s the one!?” Is it only physical attraction or is there really something more?
As a whole, I wonder: Do we really stop caring or is it in human nature to simply try and eliminate things that cause us pain? Can we live with it or simply cannot live without it?
::..In the end then, let me conclude by saying that love is universal.When I say the word love, it is not restricted to just one feeling that exists between a man and a woman. It is inside every form of object. Love always exists between every one you mingle with. However, it is also the most commonly misinterpreted and distorted word as well. We share relationships in this world--that we cannot always break up. Our family, siblings, close friends. They are a crucial,essential part of our lives that we can never eliminate and break the bond with. We do not always exchange pleasantries with our family & friends and we go through some good & some tough,trying times with them as well: same as we would if it were a relation between a man/woman.
::..So, do we truly lack the patience with relationships when it is with somebody we know we can easily cut the string that ties us to them? Is it easier for us to be heartless with some and not-so-easy with others?
Song for the moment: Jo Mere by Noori
I don’t quite seem to grasp it when there is a situation like this. And the weird part is that it happens to all of us. A person who at this minute is pouring his/her heart out and is completely in love, and then the next time you look around, he/she has called the relationship off and is calling their “most-cherished-one” names and evidently: has fallen “out of love” with him/her. So where do all those sweet nothings, dinner beneath the stars, walk in the snow, flowers, mushy-mushy sweetheart/honey endearings go? Down the drain?
I believe you can’t fall in and out of love. If you really do, then you didn’t love at all. But you simply cannot break the cycle. How is it that you can just completely close those doors and claim that you do not care? You snap your fingers and voila! Love’s here! And snap again: love’s gone!
--I do nonetheless believe that love evolves over a period of time. I don’t believe in the concept of love at first sight. You love a person not because they look like the Greek god Adonis and are the embodiment of beauty. You love them because of who they are and what they mean to you. You know the person, respect what he/she is, and you admire them. You appreciate and value them. So, therefore I cannot reason on the of "love-at-first-sight" idea: how can you love someone when you don’t know him/her at all? You simply look and then and decide, “He/she’s the one!?” Is it only physical attraction or is there really something more?
As a whole, I wonder: Do we really stop caring or is it in human nature to simply try and eliminate things that cause us pain? Can we live with it or simply cannot live without it?
::..In the end then, let me conclude by saying that love is universal.When I say the word love, it is not restricted to just one feeling that exists between a man and a woman. It is inside every form of object. Love always exists between every one you mingle with. However, it is also the most commonly misinterpreted and distorted word as well. We share relationships in this world--that we cannot always break up. Our family, siblings, close friends. They are a crucial,essential part of our lives that we can never eliminate and break the bond with. We do not always exchange pleasantries with our family & friends and we go through some good & some tough,trying times with them as well: same as we would if it were a relation between a man/woman.
::..So, do we truly lack the patience with relationships when it is with somebody we know we can easily cut the string that ties us to them? Is it easier for us to be heartless with some and not-so-easy with others?
Song for the moment: Jo Mere by Noori
8 Comments:
May be you couldn't write what you thought of, or may be I didn't get you here - what you wanted to convey!
Anyway, nice reading, as always :-)
12:01 PM
love is just an illusion. wonder how it came to be the greatest obsession in the world. it really isn't anything. but we like to call it everything
1:32 AM
@ Raja: Thanks! I added some stuff. How does it look/sound now?
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@ Pramod: Love is not an illusion. We love because in many we don't expect and then in some we see happy endings.
A mother-child relationship for instance, is different. Even without the continuous reassurances, it survives.However many changes the relationship goes through--it remains constant.
8:29 AM
Hey, r u in love? :-?
The first time I read it, it seemed loose. It was actually my fault that I didn't find a link among the paragraphs.
We love without hesitation, without any anticipation of reciprocation
I don't subscribe to either. I don't claim to have seen-it-all, tho'. ur own words support it - "next time you look around, he/she has called the relationship off" - 'coz there must have been some anticipations and they were not met.
Physical attraction is most certainly one strong reason for love. Plato was a Utopian!
it is also the most commonly misinterpreted and distorted word as well
Actually, words that stand for some intangible things, can't be defined properly in the first place. So, rather than misinterpretation, it's multi-interpretation of the word.
12:49 AM
hmmm..I was trying to make another point there! In GENERAL,we love without any anticipations! But we tend to have a lot of those around when it is a relation between a man & a woman! What I am trying to indicate is that how can you simply stop caring & 'loving' just because your expectations are not met? We don't do that with our parents,do we?
Similarly,we expect a lot of things from life! But we don't necessarily seem to obtain all of them. But we don't stop caring about our goals,and give up on life itself,do we?
About the physical attraction part:how would explain the union of a man & a woman who clearly are not..ehem..very 'physically' attractive,but are still extremely happy with one another?
11:03 AM
the union of a man & a woman who clearly are not..ehem..very 'physically' attractive
I don' wanna hurt them :-p
8:52 PM
can we talk sometime?
siddhant
1:34 PM
I partly agree with u. Love is fickle. They say, love is like a violin, the music may stop every now and then, but the strings remain forever. The memories are important and so are the feelings. We human beings are by nature polygamous; we cant be confined in one, so look for another company and so on. It goes on and on. but, there r things like first love that remain indelible. So, have faith on love!
with love,
Deepak
3:38 AM
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